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Silence Encourages the Tormentor

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So last night I began writing this and continued in the wee hours of the morning and then as if God wanted to pat me on my head as affirmation today, this Super Soul Sunday had Charles Eisenstein. I am literally in awe…So, here goes:

 

I’ve known this quote for some time but, by grace, was reminded of it again in my reading of Danielle LaPorte’s latest book White Hot Truth. It is, indeed, why my most recently published piece is on the idea that love has become an outrageous phenomenon.

 

For me, the idea of love consciously formed around the idea of activism with Mohandas “Mahatma” K. Gandhi at the center. I started reading history at the age of eleven and it has always been the choice to remain silent and not act that I have always found confounding. In fact, my dissertation addressed precisely this point. I examined the ideology of silencing as it related to race and ethnicity in 19th-century Puerto Rico.

 

From witnessing individual acts of suffering in our daily lives to instances of mass suffering (both historically and currently), our choice to watch and ignore the most appalling behavior makes me have a visceral reaction. And the truth is, I know that we all have this physical reaction because as I have said before, we are nobody and everybody. But it is our decision to be willfully blind that allows us to accept the dismal reality of terror and acclimate ourselves to it. And let’s be clear, doing this is a choice to disconnect from everyone else and our truest selves as well.

 

Throughout my life, I have been asked repeatedly to be silent, to acquiesce and disconnect for the “proclaimed” wellbeing of others (and myself). And while I knew this not to be true, many times I complied under the pressure of the flood of voices speaking more fear into me. I’m usually that one person who doesn’t know how to be willfully blind and wear an “I’m okay with this” mask.” Every time I made this choice it was a literal nightmare. Hell, this is what living in fear is, it is acquiescing to the possibility of experiencing more pain than that which you are currently living. It is believing that “they” (the others) who are out to dominate us will win, instead of believing in the power of “us.” Often, we become intimidated into silence or taking a step back because we are told that great ill will befall us. The illusion is that hell awaits us should we speak up for someone who is suffering, be it ourselves or someone else. But the truth is that it is precisely the silence and choice to be willfully blind that creates a hell that is both personal and collective.

 

So, this is what I have to say, show up! SHOW UP! Stop submitting to fear and hate. Speak! Act! People are suffering in a variety of ways and they feel disconnected because our culture tells us that you are all you have. But while you’re looking at someone else with horror saying, “God, please don’t let that happen me or with judgment and pity thinking, “that will never be me,” the truth is…it already is.

Love is LOUD!

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Not obnoxious (unless of course you’re a proponent of fear…and hate) but definitely intense and unavoidable. In it’s most pure form when love is expressed it is not just intense but it is resolute, inclusive, compassionate, and resilient. Fear, on the other hand, will have you believing the lie that there is an “us” and a “them” and sadly much of the world believes just that. Clearly, the world needs more love and I think that’s why lately I’ve been feeling like I’m supposed get even louder about love. Can you believe that?! I mean, I thought I was pretty loud, right? I must admit that the thought of getting louder about love shocked me as well. So, I let it sit with me but the feeling is pretty intense. So, I’m going to see where this takes me.

 

Oh, and guess what else I am? Beside myself and literally giggling with glee. It’s a little daunting but when you’ve been called you’ve got to answer it, right? When hate and fear get as loud as they are now, that’s no time to shut up, freeze in our tracks, or disappear. I mean, that’s exactly what fear wants. People who speak fear do so to silence us and make us stand down. And so many times in the face of fear and hate that’s when love becomes a whisper. It becomes inaudible, irrecognizable, and sometimes even nonexistent. But not today, not for me and I hope not for you either. I’m going to love, be joy, have fun, and SERVE.

 

Fear says that you are unworthy, alone, different from anyone else, and unlovable. But that couldn’t be further from the truth.The truth is that we are all flawed, worthy, loved AND we belong. No one is excluded. This is the truth so I’m going to love LOUDER.

 

I wonder how loud we can get? Because I know that while it appears that I’m going to do this by myself, I’m not alone. Well, what do you say?!…let’s pump up this volume!

U.S. Secretary of Rights & Privileges

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Oh, I guess the unassuming way that I kind of inserted myself into the White House and politics has been a little jarring but let’s be honest, who can really do without me now?…certainly not you. Plus, aren’t I so refreshing, full of love, and truth, and compassion…and joy?! A year ago who would have thought that I would be working with the President of the United States? I mean, I can talk to you and be completely frank. You listen, with a grain of salt, of course…okay, so with a few million grains of salt. And I mean, if I didn’t know any better, I might think from from time to time you’ve even taken some of my advice.

 

Who would have thought that we would connect over social media? I know you have touted your 100 million followers, right? Well, please don’t let that fool you anymore than my 49 followers. It’s all an illusion. You see, power does that. It creates a lot of illusions about what is real and what’s not. But the truth is, it doesn’t matter how many followers we have, we are exactly the same. For you, how many followers you have makes a difference, but for me, even if I had no followers, I would be doing exactly what I’m doing now. If I cared about the followers and likes I would have stopped a long time ago. I mean, look at my account! For me, this is about serving and sharing something that the world needs. It’s work that has been put on my heart so I plan to manifest that until there’s nothing left, regardless of the outcome. Love, compassion, and our common humanity are that important to me.

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We Don’t Need Privilege, We Can Do Hard Things

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We can do hard things and so can you. President Trump, you have been given the greatest gift of all for your birthday…the opportunity to be humble and authentic. I can promise you that there is no greater gift but once again you have to shift your perspective to see it for what it really is.
I speak from experience. This week two years ago I was thinking about turning 40 and I was determined to change things in my life with which I was not happy; and boy, did I change things. The first thing I did was to choose love and then I let go. I didn’t know what I was doing. I just did what felt right and by felt right I don’t mean it was comfortable or looked like the right thing to everyone else, I mean I did what felt loving and authentic.

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President Trump, Who’s Going to Lift this Cloud?

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Well, hello there again, President Trump. I see that you are hesitant about changing course. In all likelihood, you’re not even considering it.  I cannot stress to you enough how important it is that you shift your perspective.

 

Since you’ve been in office I’m sure you’ve wondered, “who can I trust?” I mean, your focus on the “leaks” is surely an attempt to divert attention away from your campaign’s interactions with Russia, but it also speaks to whether you can trust those with whom you work.

 

That said, I know that you are a successful businessman but that is not the same thing as being a good leader. As a leader, the main focus becomes not who can I trust but can those whom I lead trust me. I know this is yet another shift in perspective but we need only look to the numerous leaks and now, more powerfully, at the testimony given by James Comey to see that, by and large, you are not trusted.

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It’s Time for a Shift in Perspective, Mr. President

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Well, hello President Trump! How’s your week been? I know yesterday was a big day. Let me just say that I think you did a really good job in refraining to use Twitter particularly regarding Comey’s testimony.

 

So, how’s our awareness activity coming? Have you noticed how anger feels both emotionally and sensorially? Well, since we began speaking about trust (and trusting your body), let’s continue down that path.

 

I want you to consider something…I know, I know, I’m always asking you to think differently but that’s just a part of the process. Consider that just maybe some of your perspectives are not serving you well. (If anger is welling up here, take a breath. Exhale. Feel free to repeat this as needed.) Let’s look at an example of how your perspective intersects with trust. So, let’s start with a statement you tweeted earlier this week (June 6): “The FAKE MSM is working so hard trying to get me not to use Social Media. They hate that I can get the honest and unfiltered message out.”

 

Let me ask you…do you really believe that mainstream media doesn’t want you to use social media? You’ve said repeatedly both in the February 16 press conference and again in your tweet this week that they don’t want you “to take my message straight to the people.” But that belief in no way aligns to another one of your assumptions, namely, that the mainstream media are “attack[ing] [y]our administration.” If they were both attacking you and your administration and also trying to discourage you from getting your message directly to the people, then, Mr. President, they would be calling for you to keep tweeting unreservedly. In that vein, I don’t know if you’re fully aware of this but you place yourself (and your administration, advisors and the country for that matter) into a deeper public relations, political, and legal quagmire by continuing to tweet ad nauseam.

 

Also, I find it hard to believe that your advisors have not at least floated the idea (if not begged you) to stop tweeting. If you don’t trust anyone else, I would imagine that Ivanka is one of the advisors. You do believe that Ivanka wants what’s best for you, right? If not, who do you trust?

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This is the Truth (Like it or Not)

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When I left the March for Truth this weekend, I discovered that yet another act of terrorism had occurred. And yes, President Trump, I went because, I believe in truth.

 

So, let me just outline a few of the truths in which I believe. For starters, I believe that we are in this together. So, anyone (we’ll just call them haters) who makes and “us” and a ‘them” is a problem. The second truth is that you, like the rest of us, are human and so I will advocate that others treat you as such. Third, I will also advocate that you treat everyone else equally. This means coming to the realization of my first truth. And just so we’re clear, this is THE most important thing…that is, that people are treated humanely and with compassion. Finally, the last truth that I will speak of today is that you have done a lot of deceiving and bullying, amongst other things and while this is not considered terrorism, it is hate and fear nonetheless. Mr. President, those facts just can’t be sidestepped.

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Perspectives of Nobody & Everybody

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Dear President Trump,

 

I just wanted to check in with you. Now, let me say that this letter is written out of complete love; however, that does not mean that you will like what I have to say. No sarcasm, no condescension or insults, just honest talk. And my request is small but significant. It will cost you very little, but there is much to gain. I’m asking that you read this letter in its entirety, do the mental exercise to the absolute best of your ability and then reflect. My offering is meager as it is merely something different and hopefully, helpful. So, what do you say?

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Ideas & People

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That’s right all judgments, biases, beliefs, and stereotypes are ideas and they will NEVER be people. I know this is probably just the thing you don’t want to hear but you need to.

 

It sounds so basic, but everyday we make people and the ideas they hold synonymous; and they are not one in the same.  People are not ideas. Yes, I know you’re feeling some resistance to this, but putting things in context is essential. Let me take you through my own mental exercise.

 

Think of a person with whom you are angry. Who is it that you feel like you can’t stand? It can be someone you know personally or not. Now, you’ll know you’ve picked the right person when you have a visceral reaction…you know, that feeling in the pit of your stomach? Yep, that’s the person.  For me that person was Donald Trump. Every time I think about him, he represents pure white male privilege, hate, egocentrism, fear and self-interest. He literally made (and sometimes still does make) my stomach turn.

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When It Comes to Resistance, Criticize Behavior, Not People

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Everyday social media is flooded with personal attacks for having expressed an opinion contrary to their own. And since the presidential campaign, it seems like these occurrences have increased. There have been a lot of assumptions about why people voted for Trump, many deeming our compatriots as racists. Likewise, some conservatives have argued the ludicrousy of women marching so they can “kill their babies.” None of this is productive nor is it true. And it is ALL offensive. And not only do I intellectually recognize it as being offensive, I FEEL offended.

 

So here’s the thing…it is possible to critique ideas and actions without criticizing people. And now that it can no longer be ignored that our society is, in many instances, deeply divided, I can’t help but bring attention to the vitriolic manner in which some of us have chosen to express ourselves. Read more.