If the Shoe Fits…!: Life of Comfort vs. The Life You Love
“This is not the life I thought I would be living.”
Have you ever said that to yourself?
Maybe it’s because you always thought you’d be further along in life. Or because you still feel unfulfilled even though you have achieved the goals you hoped you would.
Sometimes we don’t even realize that there are parts of our lives that make us feel discontented because, at some point, the routine of our lives takes over and we find ourselves in autopilot. We go through our day completing all of the necessary tasks, checking all of the boxes only to feel physically exhausted and emotionally drained by the end of it.
Our daily schedule has become a norm that we no longer question.
Until… someone gives you feedback on your exhaustion level, your lack of enthusiasm for life, or how often you complain. And still you give them a defensive look like, “Uh, uh that’s not me.” And they look back at you and say, “Really?! If the shoe fits…wear it.” But then you stop to think about it and realize that you are mindlessly moving through your days. Your life is not bad but there is still something missing. You don’t look forward to every day. Instead you’re just going through the motions. And in that moment you realize you are wearing those shoes that you thought you would never wear. You know, those shoes that are completely broken in, the ones with no pizzazz, the ones that look hideous. They don’t reflect one bit of your personality… except of course your desire to be comfortable.
This is when you have come to a fork in the road and you must ask yourself, “Do I continue to live a mediocre life, or do I take a chance and do something different?” When you have that moment of awareness you are in essence asking yourself , “Do I continue to be comfortable or do I make a choice for what feels extraordinary?”
When you come to that crossroads, here’s what you need to ask yourself…
- Do I wake up excited, and ready to take on my day?
Or do you just wake up excited when it’s a Friday, holiday or vacation time? If you’re not having at least a little fun in every day, you’re not living. You’re existing.
We thrive in life when we are connected to our passions on a daily basis. Think about it: how much more fulfilling would your life be if you woke excited for every day just like you do for Fridays and vacations.
The mundane activities of the day along with our blasé attitude about life can lead to a lack of passion and enthusiasm. This happens because we’ve become disconnected from the things about which we are most passionate.
Or perhaps you don’t even know what you’re passionate about anymore. If that’s the case, it’s time for you to figure that out! Because a life without passion is one that often lacks motivation and leads to discontentment, mediocrity, and malaise. And who wants to live that life? Not you.
- Is your life organized around your life goals rather than the minutiae of everyday?
If you can’t remember the last time you thought about your life goals and the actual steps you need to take to realize these goals, you are probably caught up the minutiae of the day. When your main concern is when you’re going to take the dog to the vet or making sure you get the kids to soccer practice in time, you are caught up in the details.
A person who lives with their long-term goals at the forefront of their mind and integrates these goals on a daily basis is living an intentional life. And an intentional life is one in which individuals have purpose, achieve their goals and experience a sense of fulfillment.
And don’t be fooled. If you think that you don’t have time to consider your life priorities, you’re wrong. People make time for what they value.
Perhaps you need to think about how different your life would look if you organized it around life goals rather than daily details. Then make time for what’s really important.
The mundane details will always be there but they don’t have to take center stage. People thrive most when their daily activities are aligned to their life goals.
If your answer to either of these questions is no, you have some work to do. And that work begins with a self assessment of how you feel and what you desire for your life. But thinking about your feelings and life isn’t enough, you must take action.
Take off that boring pair of shoes you’ve been wearing every day and start wearing that pair that you love. You know, the ones that you find to be oh so cool, they reflect your personality, and they’re perfect for the life journey you most desire.
So, make a plan. Get out there and do something different. Change is required if you want to begin living the life you desire the most. Don’t settle. And fear not, those new shoes may feel a little uncomfortable at first. But keep in mind change often feels awkward in the beginning. I promise you that the life you love is waiting, you only need to make it your priority.
So, put on those new shoes and sport them!